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In the episode, Carrie and Charlotte are joined by Samantha Jones and Miranda Hobbes, played by Kim Cattrall and Cynthia Nixon, respectively, and as they enjoy a cozy evening together, the four women discuss their physical insecurities.

Charlotte says that she is most insecure about her thighs, Miranda her chin, and Carrie her nose. Meanwhile, ever-confident Samantha refuses to say anything negative about herself because she is happy with how she looks. 

On her podcast, Kristin revealed that this scene was not scripted because the show’s writers did not want to predict what each woman’s insecurity would, or should, be. 

She explained: “It’s the one and only time that we were told we could ad-lib. After that, it never happened again; it was very, very frowned upon after this. But it was the sweetest reason why!”

“In this particular scene, we’re talking about models and men who only date women who are models,” Kristin continued. “And, you know, how we feel about that. Does it make us feel less than? I think that’s something Carrie asks us, and then we were each supposed to say what we felt insecure about.”

“The writers didn’t want to write that on paper,” she went on. “That was very sweet of them not to want to write what they thought we would feel self-conscious about. To let us ad-lib what we felt self-conscious about, which was really kind.”